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Gift to get my girlfriend into my hobby?

Post by msegarra » Sat May 23, 2020 9:44 am

I’m torn between the model cycles and the korg monotribe as a gateway drug into synths for my girlfriend who is awesome and intelligent but doesn’t understand why I love making music with hardware . So I’m thinking of those two currently namely because I love elektron gear and I miss my monotribe
But I definitely want something that she can learn to play with me and not just absorb it into my arsenal lol. Any suggestions?

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Post by TheMentat » Sat May 23, 2020 9:47 am

This has got bad idea written all over it.

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Post by Fog Door » Sat May 23, 2020 9:51 am

Yeah, this story ends with you out in the cold and her snuggled up to a Buchla - Suzanne Ciani style! ;)

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Post by Mr_Sulcus » Sat May 23, 2020 9:52 am

Is she actually interested in getting involved?

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Post by Shledge » Sat May 23, 2020 9:53 am

Can't go wrong with a pocket operator - I have the PO-33 and its a lot of fun to play with. Syncable with modular gear too. Any of Korg's Volca stuff is pretty good too for beginners too.

I didn't really need to convince my partner, she has stuff like Korg's DS10 for her DS along with some casios she has circuit bent, so is generally supportive about my hardware. Even has shown interest in getting some hardware synths herself. Might do the same for christmas!
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Re: Gift to get my girlfriend into my hobby?

Post by lisa » Sat May 23, 2020 9:57 am

To me it’s a nice idea but perhaps more about buying more gear than it is about getting her interested? If you want her to get into it just invite her to your sessions. Show her (briefly!) how things work, let her try things out (even if she turns out to be doing it ”wrong”) and hope that she’ll be be bitten.
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This has got bad idea written all over it.
Haha! :D Why is that, exactly?
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Post by onthebandwagon » Sat May 23, 2020 9:59 am

Happy relationships are often about not sharing all of the same interests or trying to.
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Post by tehyar » Sat May 23, 2020 10:02 am

My experience has been that it can be very difficult to get someone into in one of my nerdly hobbies that wasn’t already interested in it. I’ve had a few disappointments. It’s probably not impossible, though.

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Re: Gift to get my girlfriend into my hobby?

Post by msegarra » Sat May 23, 2020 10:08 am

Mr_Sulcus wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 9:52 am
Is she actually interested in getting involved?
She said yes but like a concerned yes because i have too many hobbies (glass blowing oil painting, epoxy, so I think she doesn’t know which one it’s related to lol I might directly show her say screw the suprise to get her opinion first

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Post by bitflip » Sat May 23, 2020 10:08 am

My pick over those two would definitely be the Monotribe, since it is so immediate and tactile with the synth controls and ribbon.

Maybe you could just ask her what aspects of electronic music she'd like to learn? :despair:

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Post by lud » Sat May 23, 2020 10:10 am

msegarra wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:08 am
Mr_Sulcus wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 9:52 am
Is she actually interested in getting involved?
She said yes but like a concerned yes because i have too many hobbies (glass blowing oil painting, epoxy, so I think she doesn’t know which one it’s related to lol I might directly show her say screw the suprise to get her opinion first
Glass blowing sounds more romantic!

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Post by msegarra » Sat May 23, 2020 10:22 am

lisa wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 9:57 am
To me it’s a nice idea but perhaps more about buying more gear than it is about getting her interested? If you want her to get into it just invite her to your sessions. Show her (briefly!) how things work, let her try things out (even if she turns out to be doing it ”wrong”) and hope that she’ll be be bitten.
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Sat May 23, 2020 9:47 am
This has got bad idea written all over it.
Haha! :D Why is that, exactly?
I think I’m gonna force her to play with me next opportunity I have lol because she actually can play piano decently

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Post by Ceres » Sat May 23, 2020 10:28 am

Have you ever seen that Simpsons episode where Homer buys a bowling ball for himself and gives it to Marge as a gift? That’s a bit what this sounds like. Why don’t you embrace what she is into and buy her a gift she wants?
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Post by EATyourGUITAR » Sat May 23, 2020 10:33 am

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Post by Shledge » Sat May 23, 2020 10:35 am

onthebandwagon wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 9:59 am
Happy relationships are often about not sharing all of the same interests or trying to.
Once you're not trying hard to convince them or deliberately forcing them, I don't see the problem in seeing if it sparks an interest within them. If they don't care for it or like it, that's fine, but it would at least help them understand somewhat.

I see too many toxic "wife bad" type posts, and frankly a lot of it is down to a lack of sharing or communication.
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Post by onthebandwagon » Sat May 23, 2020 10:35 am

Ceres wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:28 am
Have you ever seen that Simpsons episode where Homer buys a bowling ball for himself and gives it to Marge as a gift? That’s a bit what this sounds like. Why don’t you embrace what she is into and buy her a gift she wants?
Harder to regift something to yourself that way.
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Re: Gift to get my girlfriend into my hobby?

Post by msegarra » Sat May 23, 2020 10:57 am

Ceres wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:28 am
Have you ever seen that Simpsons episode where Homer buys a bowling ball for himself and gives it to Marge as a gift? That’s a bit what this sounds like. Why don’t you embrace what she is into and buy her a gift she wants?
It’s tricky because she’s s hot girl who loves balenciaga fendi and chanel so not a whole lot of guess work for me to do a suprise I pretty much can only ask what she wants if I’m aiming to get her what she actually wants and I have a history of top level gifts for her lol

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Post by onthebandwagon » Sat May 23, 2020 11:01 am

msegarra wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:57 am
Ceres wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:28 am
Have you ever seen that Simpsons episode where Homer buys a bowling ball for himself and gives it to Marge as a gift? That’s a bit what this sounds like. Why don’t you embrace what she is into and buy her a gift she wants?
It’s tricky because she’s s hot girl who loves balenciaga fendi and chanel so not a whole lot of guess work for me to do a suprise I pretty much can only ask what she wants if I’m aiming to get her what she actually wants and I have a history of top level gifts for her lol
And how does she’s feel about Gucci? We’re dying to know!
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Post by Rex Coil 7 » Sat May 23, 2020 11:02 am

msegarra wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 9:44 am
I’m torn between the model cycles and the korg monotribe as a gateway drug into synths for my girlfriend who is awesome and intelligent but doesn’t understand why I love making music with hardware . So I’m thinking of those two currently namely because I love elektron gear and I miss my monotribe
But I definitely want something that she can learn to play with me and not just absorb it into my arsenal lol. Any suggestions?
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Post by RowanH » Sat May 23, 2020 11:17 am

For what it's worth, I had an ex who had no interest whatsoever in music nevermind making it who picked up my Analog 4 and got things instantly and was banging out tunes within 10 mins, genuine wtf moment. Sometimes a certain paradigm just clicks with someone and it's really difficult to predict. Ignoring the question of whether this is a good idea overall or not the Model Cycles sounds like a better option, you can get much closer to a complete track for a start.

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Post by Rex Coil 7 » Sat May 23, 2020 11:22 am

msegarra wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:22 am
lisa wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 9:57 am
To me it’s a nice idea but perhaps more about buying more gear than it is about getting her interested? If you want her to get into it just invite her to your sessions. Show her (briefly!) how things work, let her try things out (even if she turns out to be doing it ”wrong”) and hope that she’ll be be bitten.
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Sat May 23, 2020 9:47 am
This has got bad idea written all over it.
Haha! :D Why is that, exactly?
I think I’m gonna force her to play with me next opportunity I have lol because she actually can play piano decently
so wait, she's a "decent" piano player ... and you want to get her a tinkertoy like a monotribe to test her interest in synths? this is a horrible approach in my opinion. she's going to compare a "real instrument" (the piano) to some little squeaky box ... my guess is she won't take it seriously, too toyish, not a "serious musician's instrument" (so to speak). i mean, at least get her something with full sized keys ... something she can relate with and actually play pieces she's familiar with. that approach has a far higher likelihood of success ... it brings some of her world into the situation, along with bringing her into your world. i've been married to the same woman for forty years ... there are ways to make relationships work, and then there are "all of the other ways" (failures). you gotta bring both your interests together if you want this synth thing to work out with her. otherwise ... well ... you said it all .... "I think I’m gonna force her to play with me next opportunity I have" ... yea, forcing her ... sure, that'll work ..... (nope!).

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Post by Koekepan » Sat May 23, 2020 12:08 pm

I suggest the following (expensive, but worth it):

get her a Numa compact keyboard, and then a little MIDI desktop synth.

You get her a nice interface, which she can use to synthesise different sounds. For example, you could consider something in Roland's Boutique range to demonstrate some ideas.

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Post by Tofupancho » Sat May 23, 2020 12:18 pm

lud wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:10 am

Glass blowing sounds more romantic!
Just be careful- it’s profoundly less fun if you suck at it.

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Post by bitflip » Sat May 23, 2020 12:25 pm

:lolspew:
Tofupancho wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 12:18 pm
lud wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:10 am

Glass blowing sounds more romantic!
Just be careful- it’s profoundly less fun if you suck at it.

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Post by msegarra » Sat May 23, 2020 2:04 pm

Tofupancho wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 12:18 pm
lud wrote:
Sat May 23, 2020 10:10 am

Glass blowing sounds more romantic!
Just be careful- it’s profoundly less fun if you suck at it.
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